What do you think??? Is it ever okay to text your ex???
Some of life’s most perplexing questions — like “Why is the sky blue?”, “Is there a God”, and “When is it OK to text your ex?” — only hit us when we’re completely alone.
Picture this. You’ve just finished watching The Office on Netflix for the 12th time and you realize, alarmingly, that you have a lot of time to yourself now. In fact, you’re bored and the silence in your tiny, empty apartment is uncomfortable. Like, did you know that your upstairs neighbors have nightly fights about whose turn it is to change the cat litter? You do now. That’s how quiet things have been on your end.
Even the high from text messages about canceled plans doesn’t do it for you anymore. You miss hearing your phone buzz and picking it up to see a familiar name that’s just popping in to say, “Hey!” And, TBH, you don’t care that you have to be the one to initiate the conversation so you do it. You text your ex.
I know because I’ve been there. I’ve sent those messages and yeah, maybe they worked at the time. I probably got the attention or company or comfort I was craving. But I’ve also been on the receiving end of those messages and all I truly felt was awkward — especially if I’d been happily moving on with my life since the breakup.
Is it ever OK to text your ex, then? Yes, of course, it is. If your split was amicable and casual texts back and forth don’t set either of you back emotionally, it’s OK. But this isn’t the only rule.